Killing me softly*

We had a water filter installed yesterday. During my year in Prague, we had to buy all of our water. So, I know better than to take drinkable water for granted. But, apparently I still did it. It just took several weeks of drinking chorine-flavored water and consuming our emergency water bottles to realize how complacent I’d become. Now that I need to replenish our water stash and I’ve been thinking about natural disasters…I find myself comparing the life-giving and life-destroying juxtaposition of water. How much we need it and how it can devastate. This dichotomy is in all elements of nature. Fire can keep you alive and obliterate wood, skin and bone. A breeze can cool you, make plants click to continue reading…

All the places I’ve run

It has been a very busy summer — mostly in August. I’m running R4HG again and kicked off training this spring in Bend, OR. It was so idyllic to start training that way. At one point I stopped to take a picture of a swan. (And then she promptly squawked, honked and chased every other bird away.) Not so beautiful. Since then, I also ran in California, Colorado, Nevada  and of course Idaho. I didn’t run when I was in New York, I was too out of my element, suddenly longing for desolation wilderness like I haven’t in years. Besides it takes no effort for me to get lost. But I walked eleven miles in one day looking at everything. click to continue reading…

Is Pornography Infidelity?

My husband and I have been counseling married and about-to-be-married couples for several years now. Neither of us are educated in the world’s standards for psychology, so my opinion is that of a layman. One thought I hear consistently from females is, “Will I be enough for him, will I be able to keep him interested?” This surprises me, because, twenty years ago when I got married—I’d never considered or heard a girl wonder about that question. Now, it’s a standard fear. Why? I love the Ted Talk’s Series by Physiologist Philip Zimbardo “The demise of guys?” because of the simplistic way he describes pornography use. He refers to “Arousal Addiction” and says that more is not enough—you will require click to continue reading…

Ignoring the cat poop in the room?

Our cat now comes and goes as he pleases, and I love that he does his business outdoors. But once in awhile, when he was sick, or we go on vacation I’ll pull out the litter box. I kept smelling cat poop and every day it got worse. Sometimes I’m such a dork. I would check the litter box, behind the washer, under the shelf… it never occurred to me to empty the laundry room trash. Sometimes we obsess about the sin we have conquered. (Rechecking the litter box.) But ignore the cat poop in the room. We boast in our hearts of the sin we no longer deal with — and especially notice others who still struggle. Meanwhile hidden click to continue reading…